Just like precious china, society’s “norm” is formed in a kiln. A social norm is formed in a thermally insulated chamber of preconceived typical ideas that serve as the heat needed to produce in the kiln. Not even an afterthought of atypical thinking/doing. Seems that typical thinking is to be the only workable thinking to consider by the kiln masters!
How lopsided society norms are!
The typical society masters set up social norm rules to be followed, yet they break it all the time and then expect our atypical thinking to understand and uphold their normality?
Extensive studies into the social sciences field conceive norms as exogenous variables. Norms are mainly seen as constraining behaviour; a collective representation of acceptable group/cultural conduct – moral, social and legal norms and yet the lines are blurred except for the clear NO to NeuroDiverse norms, cause that calls for “lets-fix-it-mode” right!
WHY?
It matters not where I ask or who I ask this why to, it keeps echoing back with a burst of horrible laughter filled with nothingness!
Should we not find the balance between typical and atypical norms to produce a flexible norm that can not be broken by NeuroTypical nor NeuroDiverse humans that would create acceptance of all to ensure a safe and free society for all?
If only we could learn to bend, blend and be more open minded to differences as a norm …
I do not have the answers though, just the questions ...
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It is definitely a thing, all of the exceptions to the rules in society. Good thing to mull over for our increasingly neurodiversity in population.
Thank you for taking a moment in your busy day to come and read my thoughts – YOU ARE APPRECIATED! Society rules truly are complex – but it is up to us, to simplify it to such a point where ALL will be part of the norm of everyday
I am so saddened by societal norms. My son is on the spectrum (he has sensory processing disorder) and he flaps his hands to regulate. I think it is so unfortunate that we have to explain to people differences in the human race as a whole because they are just too ignorant (I guess?) to appreciate the beauty of diversity.
I agree with you, Amber. My hubby and I were diagnosed the year after our son – and though I don’t flap my hands, nor does my son, we do stim. There will soon be a vlog on this site (busy editing it) about igniting communication for our non-verbal kids. There you will see a tiny happy stim I had in the moment – will share the link on Blogging with the Heart as soon as it is ready.
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“If only we could learn to bend, blend and be more open minded to differences as a norm …” YES…if only. 💜 Our differences are beautiful.
differences sure are beau-ti-ful and color the world in amazingly – I agree with you Linda! Thank you for sharing a kind and colorful thought here with me.
Very interesting read! I’ve often taught my kids to think outside the box! We need a society of creative thinkers!!
Indeed, Sarah – we need creative thinkers that outline the outlines who can innovate and problem solve 🙂